When we think of #leadership we don’t often think of leaders being vulnerable. Yet, vulnerability and openness are the foundation behind #authenticity and #trust. When leaders are vulnerable they show immense courage. The ability to have the courage to show yourself, rather than false bravado and ego. Courage to own your short-comings and responsibilities. Courage to be open to feedback, to learn and develop. I recently got to witness the courage vulnerability from a CEO in front of his senior leaders and waited to see what would happen. They banded around him and supported him, expressed care for him, showed empathy and created a deeper bond as a team. The team were in turn, inspired to show the courage of vulnerability and what ensured was deep reflection and genuine desire to improve and grow. We were witness to #EmotionalIntelligence in action and the very reason why I am so passionate about facilitating the #GENOS #Ignite program. The program gives space for genuine conversations to arise and the tools to enhance their leadership skills. Send me a message if you are #brave enough to find out more!
Thank you Kim Franks for inviting me to the #QRC and #WIMARQ International Women’s Day breakfast. Congratulations to Jo-Anne Dudley winner of the Resources Awards for women. Thank you to Rachael Robertson for your inspirational talk on Leadership in the Antarctic, I was impressed that the expedition the recruitment policy highlights the importance of #EmotionalIntelligence in leadership and team work.
Did you know that frequent face-to-face personal interactions and close personal relationships are more likely to make you live longer than exercising, eating well and quitting smokes and booze? In her recent book, The Village Effect: How Face-to-Face Contact Can Make Us Healthier, Happier, And Smarter, Susan Pinker brings together the most recent research on health, ageing and centenarians to show how these social factors far outweigh the benefits of many physiological factors such as sleep, diet and exercise. Face-to-face contact and close personal relationships release neurotransmitters that foster trust, reduce stress and pain and induce pleasure, thus helping you lead a longer, healthier life.
Research in the area of emotional intelligence has shown meaningful relationships between the level of our emotional intelligence and the quality of our relationships and interpersonal interactions (for example, the work by Smith, Heaven, and Ciarrochi, 2008). It’s not just having close relationships and social interactions that make you live longer, it’s also the quality of them. People who demonstrate greater self-awareness, more empathy and who are better at managing their own and others’ emotions, tend to build better-quality relationships with others, as well as relationships that last longer and are more dependable (for example, the people in the relationship are more likely to lend us money, take us to the doctor and generally be there for us in times of need).
Recently, we examined the relationship between levels of emotional intelligence, occupational stress and resilience in collaboration with Worksafe Tasmania and the Department of Premier and Cabinet Tasmania. Our model of emotional intelligence measures how well people demonstrate six emotional intelligence competencies that are known to contribute to success in the workplace. Namely:
- Self-Awareness: being aware of the way you feel and the impact your feelings can have on decisions, behaviour and performance.
- Awareness of Others: the capacity to perceive, understand and acknowledge the way others feel.
- Authenticity: the capacity to openly and effectively express how you feel, honour commitments and encourage this behaviour in others.
- Emotional Reasoning: the capacity to effectively use the information in feelings (from oneself and others), and combine it with other facts when decision-making.
- Self-Management: the capacity to effectively manage one’s own mood and emotions; time and behaviour; and continuously improving oneself.
- Positive Influence: the capacity to positively influence the way others feel through problem solving, providing feedback, and recognising and supporting others’ work.
We found that all six of the competencies of our model meaningfully correlated with occupational stress and resilience. People who demonstrate the competencies well report feeling less stress and more resilient at work. What was interesting in this work and which connects nicely with Susan Pinker’s research, was that the skills to do with others such as ‘Awareness of Others’ and ‘Positive Influence’, correlate almost as strongly with your personal resilience and how stressed you feel, as the competencies to do with self such as ‘Self-Management’ and ‘Self-Awareness’.
So, what’s the message in all this? If you want to live healthier and longer, develop your emotional intelligence; there’s probably no other better thing you can do. This will not only help you create more relationships, but it will also improve the quality of them. Focus on the competencies of emotional intelligence that have to do with empathy and positively influencing the way others feel. Focus on how to make others feel heard, valued, cared for, listened to, and understood. Sharpen your skills at helping people shift from negative emotions to more positive ones, and helping people find more effective responses to stressful events. Like the tagline of our business says, it will not only be game changing for your business, it will be life changing for your people.
I walked into a training room that was filled with disgruntled, defensive and hurt employees. I had only been briefed moments before about the toxic culture and systematic bullying from senior management.
So, when I asked the question “what needs to happen when trust has been broken” it was a leap of faith. I knew what needed to be shared:
As a DV survivor (18 yrs) I know what it is like when trust is broken. I know that you need to build towards a NEW normal. You find the good in the world, develop a new mindset and practice Kintsukuroi on your soul. You can never Unbreak the broken but you can become bigger, better and more beautiful than ever before.
I give my everything to the work I do, It needed to be said. I made grown men cry, who came up and thanked me afterwards, for shining a light on hope.
We aren’t “governed” by location though – in the 21st century our office is where the wifi is!
This week I have a privilege of working with the executive #Leadership team of a multimillion dollar #retail success headquartered in Cairns. Yesterday, as I spoke of #mindfulness, I asked the question:
“How often, do you check in with your staff and ask them how they have contributed towards the organisational strategic plan in the past week/month?”
You see part of being a #MindfulLeader is being focused on the present, being able to see where we are HERE & NOW. If we don’t take the time to check that we, being everyone in the organisation is heading in the same direction how will we know when we need to guide & #engage team members back on course?
Totally addicted to BUSY
A Buddhist monk who was a senior member of His Holiness Dalai Lama’s contingent taught me a lesson I have never forgotten.
Given a private audience of 15 minutes with him, I graciously thanked him acknowledging how busy he must be. In that moment, he held my hand, looked me in the eye and said: “child, I am here with you, listening to you, seeing you, there is no busy.”
It was a privilege to present tips on how to manage emotional hijacks and build resilience at the 15th year anniversary of #GENOS– Emotional Intelligence.
Celebrating 15 years of like-minded professionals engaged in a world that is ‘Game changing for business & Life changing for individuals’. #professionaldevelopment #emotionalintelligence #leadership